"Parenting is fraught with peril.
By the time you begin to deal with destructive family patterns, it's too late. You've passed it all along anyway.
It's not too late, though. It's never too late.
Healing isn't linear, it is not restricted by time.
Just remember this, violence does not create future coping mechanisms. It doesn't make better humans. It doesn't help one deal with the complexities and challenges of life. It Is simply a self perpetuating cycle that only feeds itself.
With physical, emotional and mental violence, with power dynamics, with anger, you aren't preparing your children to 'deal' with the harshness of life. You are preparing them to be crushed by it."